Answering This One Question Will Tell You If Your Sex Life Is In Trouble

Trying to figure out if your sex life is in trouble can be really hard to do. However, it’s one of the most important questions two people in a romantic relationship can have. While many people have claimed that their way is the best way to determine if your sex life with your partner is in trouble, answering that question doesn’t have to be hard at all.Instead of going on this long, arduous journey to try and figure out what’s going on in your sex life, there’s an easier approach. Figuring out what’s going on in your sex life can easily come down to one question. Depending on how you answer it, that could make all the difference. Here’s what you need to know about the one question that will answer all of your sex life questions, and how answering that question can change everything.

We’re a month into 2017. We should really be going out of our way to reevaluate our lives in 2017, so we don’t have to do it again in 2018. Along with the general stuff about fixing our diets and being mindful of our drinking, one of the things we should be getting in order is our sex life.

Many people think that figuring out your sex life is really hard. However, it’s actually pretty easy. It all comes down to answering one question: “Can you name the top three places that your partner loves to be touched the most?”

Do you have your answer? If you don’t, you might have a lot to worry about here. If you don’t know the places where your partner likes to be touched the most sexually, there’s no way you’re having the kind of sex that the two of you should be having.

This all comes down to mood, too. If you’re a woman, you know all about this, but men feel this too.. Sometimes you don’t want to be touched in certain places that really work for you other times. The best sexual partners can tune into that.

There are a few different ways to try and make your sex life better. Depending on your sex issue, you might find that the method to fix it or at least make some headway into it is actually a pretty easy thing to do. You just need to be able and ready to actually put some effort into it.

Magnet method. If your problem is the amount that you’re having sex, this method can actually fix it pretty easily. The issue with sex frequency mismatches is that the cues that one party wants sex are being missed. Luckily, there’s an easy way to fix that, with a way that lets you discuss your sexual needs without discussing them.

Just get two magnets and put them on your fridge. They need to be easily distinguishable from each other, and then you put them on your fridge. Once a day, you move your magnet to show how you’re feeling about sex that day. Towards the top of the fridge means you’re up for it and towards the bottom means you’d really rather do literally anything else.

This works wonders for a couple with a libido mismatch. When they keep their magnets in the neutral zone, the person with a lower libido can actually initiate sex with their magnet, and the higher libido person can end up being pursued for sex for once. It’s a good way to mix things up.

Libido booster. This method is good for those couples who feel like there’s an imbalance when it comes to who initiates sex and who doesn’t. Basically, the person with the lower libido is given the control, while the higher libido person simply accepts what’s happening.

The higher libido person can’t just take over. That leaves the two of you back at square one, which is not what you want. The whole point is for the person with the lower libido to have the control to stop and start something when they want. Some lower libido people will avoid even PG rated intimacy because they don’t want to be misinterpreted for wanting sex when they don’t.

The whole idea is to get acquainted with being in control. These initiation sessions don’t even have to be all that long. This is a good thing for people with lower libido because they get to be in control and decide what happens without being rushed into things. They don’t even need to involve sex, but they can.

The five minute clock. This isn’t a sex thing, but this is good for putting the kibosh on arguments that can really mess with your sex life. If you find yourself spinning round and round in circles in an argument for no reason, simply put a clock on the argument. For five minutes, one of you gets to talk while the other really listens to what’s being said (and doesn’t spend that time planning what they’re going to say). When that five minutes is up, the listener says in their own words what their partner was just said.

Repeating it back helps you understand what you just heard. This also allows the partner to see how things can get misconstrued when we talk sometimes. If one of you got something wrong, this gives the other person a chance to set them straight. This will alleviate a lot of the stress that makes having a good sex life harder.

The lucky dip. This technique is good for long term couples who want to expand their bedroom routine. This also works for more spontaneity, because once the original exercise is done, it’s spontaneous sex from there on out. The two of you need to make a list of ten new things you want to try, and them exchange them with your partner to eliminate the things that are hard limits for you. Chances are you’ll end up with over half of your suggestions still there.

Rip up the paper into slips with one choice on it, then put them in a jar. Once a week, whenever you have sex, pull a slip of paper out, and whatever it says on there, do what it is. Putting things in there that both of you are down to try means that there’s a level of safety to this spontaneity, which is a really good thing.