For a lot of people, sex and pregnancy are a big no-no together. That’s because there are a lot of misconceptions about having sex during pregnancy that actually scares a lot of couples away from the whole idea. If you’re one of those people, forget everything you think you know about pregnancy sex, because it’s totally safe and can be enjoyed to the fullest.
If you have complications during your pregnancy, that’s something to think about. If you’re dealing with a high risk pregnancy, you’re going to need to proceed with caution and talk to your doctor before you start having sex while you’re pregnant willy nilly. On the other hand, if your pregnancy has no complications, you can go with the flow and do whatever your heart (or vagina) desires.
Don’t expect things to be the same. Sex won’t be the same when you’re pregnant, simply because you’re pregnant. Not only do you have the logistical issue of your ever growing belly, you have the baby inside you need to worry about. However, while you’ll need to make adjustments, sex during pregnancy can totally be done.
Proceed with caution at first. You might think the first trimester would be the safest time to have sex while pregnant, but it’s totally the opposite. Your first trimester is considered the most delicate part about your pregnancy, so it’s actually best to stay away from sex during this trimester until you get the go-ahead from your doctor. You might also find yourself not really wanting to have sex at all during this stage, just because your stress levels are so high and your energy is so low.
That being said, there are things you can do. If you’re advised against sex for the first three months (basically your first trimester), try oral sex instead. You and your partner will still get off, and you won’t have to worry about complicating your pregnancy. Make sure your partner doesn’t blow air into your vagina, though. Hopefully he wasn’t doing that to begin with, because that could lead to a life threatening condition.
If you’re having sex, wear a condom. This might seem like locking the door after the cat got out, but there’s a reason for this. Wearing a condom will still protect you from STDs, which pregnancy very much does not protect you from, and you can also safeguard yourself from any other infections during sex that way.
This part should go without saying. If you find yourself having negative physical symptoms while having sex, stop having it. This also counts for when you’re not pregnant, but doubly so when you are. If you get cramps or other kinds of abdominal pain, don’t keep going and try to push through, just stop everything altogether.
This is where things start getting fun. Your second trimester is known as the “honeymoon period.” That’s because your body is now used to being pregnant, and with that comes more energy. This is also when your progesterone and estrogen levels start spiking, so chances are if you’re really wanting sex, you might be in this trimester.
Try spooning. This sex position is often seen as lazy, but it’s good because it won’t take so much effort to keep going. This allows you to have all the fun sex can offer without putting a ton of pressure on your belly.
Get on top. This is a position where all of the control will be in the hands of the pregnant woman, which is great considering she can take control of the speed and depth with which she is getting penetrated. There’s also no pressure on your pregnant belly here, either.
The doggy style is the most preferred position. This position entails the woman on her knees in some way (there are a lot of variations here), while her partner penetrates her from behind. This is actually the most preferred position for sex during pregnancy because it doesn’t put any pressure on a woman’s belly and it’s a common enough style outside of pregnant sex that you probably won’t be adjusting your sex life all that much.
When you hit your third trimester, your honeymoon phase is over. You can still use the same positions you were during your second trimester, but you just have to be more careful now. This trimester is a lot more like the first trimester than the second, just because your body is adjusting to a new situation again and you might be drained of energy.
When in doubt, go slow. Slow and steady wins the race during your third trimester. Your third trimester isn’t the time to go crazy with your speed and your pace, primarily because you could very well experience physical symptoms like spotting or abdominal cramps. If that happens, stop immediately.
If you’re not necessarily in the mood for sex during your third trimester, there are other things you can do. Oral sex is very much still an option during your third trimester if penetrative sex isn’t an option for you. ON top of that, if you’re looking for physical intimacy and not necessarily for sex, you can cuddle and show physical affection in other ways.
Don’t have sex during the home stretch. During the last month of your pregnancy, sex shouldn’t happen. Consider your last month like a moratorium on sex. This isn’t to ruin anybody’s fun, this is to ensure that you have a safe childbirth, because sex can actually kick-start your labor.
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