Answering your phone after sex. If there’s one thing that can seriously kill the mood, it’s answering your phone while your partner sits next to you post-coitus. Sure, we all have been there, but it’s such a bad, selfish look. Unless you’re okay with appearing like a douche, you’ll put your phone on silent for a bit.
Not going to the bathroom shortly afterwards. If you’re female, then you already probably have heard that peeing after sex can reduce the chances of a UTI. While it may be romantic to just cuddle in bed, the fact is that a little bit of prevention can keep you from weeks of burning urine, foul-smelling urine, and awkward, painful sex.
Begging for compliments. We all have moments where we’re really insecure about ourselves, especially after the bedroom. Though this has happened to everyone at least once, begging for compliments is just a total attraction killer. Unless you’re okay with looking like a desperate, insecure trainwreck, you’ll stop begging for them to praise you.
Not cleaning up after yourself. Sex gets messy, and that’s just the way things are. This is normal. But, that doesn’t mean that you should just let yourselves stew in a major mess if things got out of control. At the very least, throw away the condom and offer her a tissue!
Texting after sex. Texting after sex happens, particularly when it’s “Netflix and chill” sex. And, at times, it’s understandable - if you really are just having a one-night-stand with a guy. However, it’s basically a watered-down version of answering your phone after sex. It’s gauche, and just something you shouldn’t do unless you absolutely have to.
Dressing to leave. Yes, once you have sex with a one night stand, you may already be thinking of all the chores you have to do at home. But, there’s a big issue here. When you immediately rush to grab your jeans and shirt, you’re telling your partner that sex was just another chore you had to do - and that they’re disposable to you. Don’t do that to them. It’s really rude.
Praising yourself. When asked to choose between the guy who begs for praise and the guy who won’t stop bragging about how he bedded you, the vast majority of women will choose the one who asks for praise. Do not be the guy who starts bragging about how awesome he is and how frequently he gets laid after sexing someone. It’s boorish, rude, and basically guarantees that she’ll never want to sleep with you again.
Not cuddling. Studies have shown that couples that don’t cuddle regularly tend to be really distant and often are on the verge of a breakup. Cuddling also is tied to better levels of sex and love satisfaction. Even if you do have to go immediately after your romp, would it really kill you to just snuggle up to your partner once in a while?
Getting gross. Look, you just had sex. Sex is sexy. No one wants to mood to get soured by seeing their partner picking their nose, farting, or belching. It will put them out of the mood to have sex with you later on, and it makes you look like a total pig. That isn’t sexy, is it?
Not giving pillow talk. We’ve all been with a partner who just says nothing after sex, and we all know how awkward it is. Sometimes, that person doesn’t even mean to be awkward - they just are in a quiet mood. Unfortunately, not having good pillow talk can wreck your sexy time and your sexy vibe.
Flipping TV channels or hitting your computer. The after sex glow is all about togetherness and intimacy. If you immediately reach for the remote, you’re basically decided to toss that intimacy and cuddle time said for the latest episode of Rick and Morty. Doing this shows that you are really insensitive - especially if you don’t even bother trying to ask her if she wants to watch anything.
Asking your partner to leave. This is just messed up on so many levels, and yet it’s a common thing to experience in today’s dating scene. You just had sex. This partner of yours may be exhausted, and may also be drunk. Don’t ask her to go home if she’s clearly not up for it. That’s rude and will make them feel used - or even violated.
Not knowing when to leave. We’ve all been in a tryst that made us want to stay, even when we get the feeling that our partner was hoping we’d be out the door 10 minutes ago. If your partner clearly wants you out the door, you might want to rethink your sex partners…and just leave.
Crying or getting emotional. Though it’s rare, many people have experienced sex that leaves them in tears. It’s really, really awkward for people to deal with. And, it’s something you should try to avoid if at all possible.
Rolling over and snoring. If you’ve had an insane week at work, it’s forgivable. If not, it doing this can be a huge mistake. Many people will take this as a sign of ingratitude, selfishness, or just plain disinterest. Stay awake, darling! You should be enjoying the mood after-sex.
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