Withholding Sex Makes Your Partner Want You More, According To Psychologists

There could be several reasons why a person would choose to withhold sex from their partner. Some do it because of religious beliefs, or because they want to wait until marriage. Then there are some people who refuse to sleep with their partners as a way to gain control of the relationship, but does this method really work? Here, we find out. Keep reading to find out why psychologists say withholding sex makes your partner want you more right here.

Confidence. "I personally believe in sex being something for women that should be about as much pleasure as possible for them," says Madame Rebecca, as reported by Broadly.

Confidence. "It's made me sexually confident because it's reinforced that sex is my decision and not just about male pleasure,” she continued.

Relationships. Using sex as a way to have the upper hand in a relationship isn’t an uncommon practice, and it’s one that has been used for centuries.

Evidence. "There is evidence that this was something that has an ancient ancestry, In one of Aristophanes' plays, the women refuse to have sex with the men until they stop fighting. Also, in the Kama Sutra (about 400 CE), this behavior is suggested as a way of keeping the partner's interest,” says psychologist James Giles, as reported by Broadly.

Control. Withholding sex serves many purposes, and while some do it for control, others do it to play hard to get.

Control. Not sleeping with a partner immediately keeps them interested and on their toes.

Domination. Then there are those that choose to make their partners wait for sex in order to gain total domination of them.

Domination. According to Giles, this is an effective way of getting that person to do what you want them to because sex is “one of our most powerful desires,” but also points out that that using this method won’t work for very long.

Value. "When done for this purpose, it is a way for a woman to increase the value of her offer of sex to a man. Things that are easily achieved are often not seen to be valuable,” says Giles, as reported by Broadly.